Who I Work With
I work with people who feel stuck in patterns they can’t quite explain, especially in relationships.
On the surface, you might notice difficulties trusting others, repeating the same relationship dynamics, or struggling to assert yourself. You may find yourself ruminating about what went wrong, questioning your choices, or feeling like life hasn’t turned out how it should have.
Underneath, I often see something deeper. Unresolved attachment wounds. A sense that your needs don’t matter as much as other people’s. A habit of staying busy or looking after others so you don’t have to feel what’s going on inside. It can leave you feeling disconnected from yourself, unsure who you are or what you want.
What It Can Feel Like
Many of the people I work with carry a quiet sense of aloneness.
You might feel that something is wrong with you, or that you’re somehow broken. There can be a longing for closeness alongside a fear of it. Relationships can feel confusing or overwhelming, and setting boundaries can feel almost impossible.
You may be exhausted from giving so much to others while neglecting yourself. Or tired of going over the past, trying to make sense of it, without finding any peace.
Sometimes there’s shame too. About past choices. About how you feel. About not being where you hoped you’d be.
How I Work
My approach is relaxed and natural. I want you to feel you can be yourself and say what you need to say.
I’m not judgemental. I’m gently curious and compassionate, and I’ll take time to understand where you’re coming from. We work at your pace. You won’t be pushed to explore anything before you’re ready.
I think of therapy as something we do together. I trust in your innate ability to heal and make sense of your experiences, and I’ll support and guide you along the way.
A big part of our work will be helping your nervous system understand that the past is over. Using approaches like Lifespan Integration, somatic work, parts work and ACT, we can begin to shift patterns without re-traumatising you or forcing you to relive difficult memories.
If you’re hesitant about therapy
It’s completely understandable if you feel unsure.
You might have tried therapy before and felt it didn’t help. You might worry about being overwhelmed or that opening things up will make everything worse. Or it may feel easier to just keep going as you are.
We can go gently. There is no pressure to dive into anything too quickly. Building trust is part of the process, and we’ll take that step by step.
What can change
Over time, things can begin to feel different.
You may find a growing sense of calm and clarity. Less pull to ruminate on the past. More confidence to set boundaries and say no when you need to.
Relationships can start to feel safer and more fulfilling. You can feel more connected to yourself, more certain of who you are, and more able to live in a way that feels honest and meaningful.
Most importantly, you won’t be doing it alone. I’ll be alongside you, invested in the work we’re doing together.